What is a Narcissism?
Narcissism is characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, a need for excessive admiration, and the belief that one is unique and deserving of special treatment. Narcissistic people may manipulate and exploit others, damaging their self-esteem and even aiming to alter their sense of reality. It’s nearly impossible for people with narcissistic personality disorder to truly fall in love and build a trusting, equal partnership. Such an individual may seek to establish strict rules in a relationship and attempt to isolate a new partner from friends and family, among other disturbing behaviors. For most narcissists, relationships are transactional. They provide positive attention and sexual satisfaction to bolster a narcissist’s ego and self-esteem. The objective is to enjoy uncommitted pleasure, and most narcissists lose interest in the relationship as the expectation for intimacy increases or they feel that they’ve conquered the challenge of securing a relationship. Narcissists can be volatile, so if you feel your safety is being compromised, contact your local domestic violence hotline or shelter.
Other disturbing behaviors include being isolated from your family and friends, being pitted against others, the rules only applying to you, not them, being made to believe you are never good enough, getting “pay back” for defying them, they are excessively competitive without the need to be, you’re told others are out to get them, they describe everyone in your life in unflattering or degrading terms, you get the silent treatment if they don’t get whatever it is they want, and your needs are met with silence, or you just get lip service.
***Disclaimer***
The State of Tennessee is a "One-Party Consent" state meaning that in Tennessee, only one person in a phone or in-person conversation needs to consent to a recording of that conversation, and once they have it, as the owner of that media, they are able to do with it what they please. In other words, you can record a conversation that you are a part of without the permission of the other individual. When it comes to video footage and recording, there is no restriction on recording, posting or otherwise distributing the video footage if it is (1) taken in an area that is in public view as the person(s) being recorded have no reasonable expectation of privacy, or (2) consent is implied through inaction or direct action. Inaction would include the knowledge that cameras are present and recording, but no action is taken. These posts are made of my own free will and I was the party recording them. I consent to their recording, and due to the multiple direct threats to murder me, I have chosen to post all of my recordings online where they will be visible and accessible should anything happen to me. These posts DO NOT require both parties to consent to them.
There are only 11 states in the US which currently require both, or all parties, involved in the recording to provide consent to do so. These states are California, Delaware, Florida, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania, and Washington. Additionally, there are only 4 states in the US that require homeowners to specifically disclose to visitors that they have cameras in their home. These states are Arkansas, Delaware, Indiana, and Michigan. As far as the recordings taken in my bedroom, in Tennessee, Michigan, and Utah, you don’t need permission to install security cameras in public places, but you do need consent for hiding cameras in places that would be considered private, such as a bedroom, bathroom, changing room, etc. The exception to this is if it is your bedroom in your house. Whereas it was my home, and the cameras were not hidden, and all parties were aware of their presence and functionality, they are within my legal right to record, retain and distribute as I choose. The bottom line here is that the last two years have been nothing but a psychological warfare trip facilitated by Robert Cody Lyons. There is not one single instance that can describe the depth or the planning and execution of what he did every single day. However, when combined to form a pattern of distinguishable behavior, what was happening becomes much more clear and the sinister motivations are indisputable. These are my personal, direct experiences with Robert Cody Lyons between April 2022 and Current day. I went from a consistent, reliable & trustworthy person to someone that is barely recognizable and for the most part, now unable to make any decisions about what to do or not do, say or not say. I am ready to move on to whatever is next in the universe, I don't have a fool proof plan but I'm expeditiously doing what I can to move the process along. On a given day, my intake is ranging from 2.5-4 grams divided in 5 or 6 doses. I can feel it getting closer to the end, and that is the only thing that is comforting me anymore. My apologies ahead of time to those who have been trying to help me through this since the first intentional overdose a few weeks ago. If I could put into words how I felt, I would, but I can't. Whatever hold, whatever it is that Cody has over me is not only real, it's stronger than ever, and this is the only way for me to release it. I don't want any of my friends to wonder what they could have done, why I didn't talk to them, what I must have been feeling......all of those things should be answered by now, and I love each and every one of you. I'm just getting a headstart to make sure the next place is ready to handle all of us! Applicable Law: Tenn. Code Ann. §§ 39-13-601, 40-6-303 Tenn. Code Ann. §§ 40-6-303, 39-13-604 Tenn. Code Ann. § 39-13-605 Federal Law (18 U.S.C. 2511(2)(d))2
This is my account of things the way they actually happened, backed by the real time video and audio recordings you'll see and hear. Even now I still default to needing to believe that somewhere deep inside of Cody, the person I am really in love with still exists, but I'm not sure that they ever did exist, and maybe it was just the idea or vision of the perfect guy that I wanted Cody to be that I was in love with, because the monster I saw everyday that filled each hour with anything and everything he could do to break me down to his level that he had been at since he was a child being raised by Norma Bates and her Beast. I've known for a long time now that Cody was a product of his environment, a sad, anxiety ridden, undiagnosed mental illness goulash of an environment where him and his brother Joey were the victims of a woman who couldn't keep air in a jar if she had to and her absent minded tow along who never dared think for himself or he may lose the only woman that would ever sleep with him.
Here’s a quick look back at who I used to be and how I got where I am
I’ll get back to that later. I was a fairly happy and successful man living in Chattanooga. My husband and I separated in August of 2016, two months after moving here from Cape Coral, FL. Since I was 18, crystal meth has been a part of my everyday life. I chose to do the drug, I didn’t let it do me. Sure, I had my moments of cloudiness where things were skewed or I may have gotten mad at something that everyone else wouldn’t have thought twice about. Likely a result of the meth use, but I came out of it quickly and regained my footing. I started out snorting it (like broken glass running down the back of nasal passage and down the back of your throat, would not recommend this!), moved on to smoking it, tried eating it or putting it in coffee for a while, and then discovered the holy grail of shooting it. That was a high like no other; immediate release that caused a loss of breath and a quick, cold cough right before the world started moving at 100mph where I had to match the speed and intensity of it. Think of the movie Spun when they show the car engine and the tires moving and spinning forever…that’s how life was.
Entrepreneurship & Success Journey
So I was moderately successful in life, more than most of the people that chose to attach themselves to me (which is also THE reason they chose to attach in the first place). I founded and operated 3 companies since I was 18, all developed and run and eventually sold, while using meth. My first two companies were sold when I got bored with them and wanted to do something else. MediaTek Designs is currently part of the multi-billion dollar MediaTek, Inc., purchased in 2006.
OmniGroup Companies represented OmniVoice Support Solutions LLC and OmniGroup Ltd, a virtual contact center providing technical support for fortune 50 software companies. I was approached in late 2020 by one of the largest clients we had and was given a proposal to buy the company and all of my contractors (who would become W2 employees) for a price I could not turn down, especially since the work I put into it was minimal given all the out-of-the-box technology in 2020 that we had. And the deal was done. I had been a Notary Public since 2012 and a Notary Loan Closer since 2014. I founded Mountain View Notary LLC and Clear To Close Signing Service LLC where I was also successful, until things started getting out of control at home and I wasn’t able to leave my house to meet with clients due to fear of my belongings being stolen, broken, or hidden somewhere by Cody. Cody had also, on numerous occasions, just as Kyle and a few others had, brought things to my house that I questioned their ownership of but ultimately stayed out of their business.
When Bryan Met Cody – An Unfortunate Mistake Becomes Lifelong Regret
I first met Cody on an app everyone knows called Grindr, back in 2016 when I first moved to Chattanooga. This guy was the picture perfect man. The things we talked about, the values he had, the morals he upheld, the vices engaged in, the physical things, the sexual things – all aligned perfectly. The only thing that didn’t align was his then-boyfriend Justin Williams. I didn’t know it at the time, but Cody had just discovered meth, which was ultimately what led to the degradation of the relationship between him and Justin, him putting his hands on Justin and his newly emerging psychosis that was made visible by meth use, but was manifesting itself even without the drug use.
Fast forward to the Spring of 2019, after Andrew and I broke up in 2016, I started selling methamphetamine as a side gig, not because I needed the money, but because I enjoyed using it and I wanted stuff that didn’t falter in quality and wasn’t laced with anything. It didn’t hurt that it equaled out to not having to pay for what I used with the profits that were made.
So moving on to May of 2022, I made several road trips to Florida, some for vacation, two to bring Kyle to a court ordered rehab and then once to bring a car down to him that i bought for him, and once the day after hurricane Ian raged through the city I used to call home where many of my friends lived and were without power, food, water or a way to get any of it. Round trip put Cody and I in the car together for no less than 20 hours each trip. That’s the equivalent of 2 weeks of full time work at 40 hours a week. There is nothing we didn’t talk about, and this is where I fell in love with him hard.
I chose to ignore the knowledge that half of the city of Chattanooga had either fucked Cody already, or little did I know, would be fucking him throughout our relationship. In January of 2023, I was told I had syphilis. This was after a Non-Reactive test only a month earlier. I had not slept with anyone else, and when I confronted Cody, hell had to be paid. This was one of the first times I saw the complete delirium and psychosis rearing its ugly head. He of course denied it to the extreme and tried to make me actually believe it was ME who gave it to HIM! Queue the phycological warfare game that I was an unwilling participant in and didn’t even know it.
I should have realized when I heard stories about how Cody falsely accused someone of raping him when the truth, supported by consensual video evidence of the encounters, was that Cody requested GHB and took the amount he determined he wanted and ingested it. He was alert, awake and very much a willing participant in the entire thing, each one of the times. But when someone he didn’t want to know about it found out, suddenly it was rape and he was the victim. Being a victim was the default defense mechanism for almost everything that happened.
Cody was, Cody is, the most manipulative, insensitive and conniving being that this world has ever seen. He is a narcissist by day and that thing under your bed at night. He uses mind control, as you’ll see, to control peoples reactions and emotions without them even realizing it. He makes demands that, if not met, will result in him vindictively causing a scene in the front yard in front of your neighbors, calling the police to falsely report that someone was harassing him using infrared thermal cameras positioned in the trees across the street from your house. He will steal money, drugs, anything not nailed down to trade for drugs or money (when no one will pay him for sex). He never says thank you, and always expects more. Again, listen to the recordings and watch the videos and you’ll see for yourself exactly what he is made of.
He takes things that someone is insecure about already, and he does an amazing job of building them up to release those insecurities. There is no limit to what he will do to make that go away for you, but it comes at a price, you just don’t know what it is yet. And then all of the sudden one day you tell him NO to something, could be about anything, and BOOM!, here comes that thing you were insecure about hitting you like a brick to the face followed by every mean and hateful comment you couldn’t even imagine someone saying to another person. Sex was a big one for me. My body and my looks was a big one for me. And then one day I hear that he told Norma Bates I raped him every day and I was also raping my dogs. Obviously a disgusting lie aimed at breaking me down, I was speechless. But not as speechless as the time I told him no to a cigarette and he, at 1AM, proceeded to pace my back yard next to my neighbors house where the windows were open screaming that I was an AIDS victim and “this faggot got what he deserved” and he hoped “it would kill me soon.” He went on to say that I intentionally gave it to everyone i came into contact with and that anyone who could hear his voice should make sure to avoid being anywhere near me. To calm him and make it stop, I gave in and gave him a cigarette. He IMMEDIATELY stopped the rant and went back inside. This is how he operates when he is told NO to something. There are dozens of other instances of this…not all were recorded but many were. All of his actions are the result of a negligent and abusive upbringing by an unstable, untreated mentally ill parent who couldn’t keep her family together if her life depended on it. In fact, Joey, Cody’s brother, moved all the way to Florida after getting his daughter out of the claws of Norma and the Beast who were holding her and refusing to let her mother see her, even though Joey told them several times to allow it. The entire time Norma sat there shaking like wet chihuahua twirling the yellowish gray hair she had in her fingers with her yellowed fingernails and raspy voice not able to form an actual word in defense. The beast, completely dumb and submissive, was also unable to speak because he had not been spoken to yet.
Norma looks to blame the entire world for all of her son’s shortcomings and issues because otherwise, it would be a reflection of her disjointed and defective parenting skills. Even as I sit her writing this, it amazes me that social services never came in to remove the boys from that environment. If there ever was a time to do it…….
I’m not going to write out every single instance of what Cody and I went thru, you can listen for yourself. Anyone reading this that knows me, knows my personality, knows my morals and values and knows the kind of person I am, or at least was up until Cody happened.
The most important thing to remember is how meticulously manipulative Cody is, WITH EVERYONE. He is a textbook NARCISSIST who can switch personalities and emotions like flipping on a light switch, and he has been perfecting his game his entire life. He knows EXACTLY what to say, how to say it, and which tone to use and which expression he needs to have on his face. He’s a pathological liar and is never happy, not even with himself. You might think he’s your best friend, but there’s always an agenda. The ONLY friend Cody has and cares about is HIMSELF. He plays the victim EXTREMELY well, as he has done with everyone in the past month to make the last 2 years look like my fault entirely. He never discloses anything he does or incites or provokes, only what other people do, or his version of it anyway.
The recordings on this site serve as irrefutable proof that dispel the perpetual victimhood of Robert Cody Lyons. Cody tells EVERYONE around him DIFFERENT stories to manipulate whatever he wants from the person he’s telling, whether it is sympathy, anger, mob mentality, or support.
This collage of pictures shows how manipulative and deceptive he was and to what lengths he would go to control me by pretending he was in love with me. He knew that one of my biggest insecurities outside of sex was having someone that genuinely loved me and wasn’t just using me for whatever they could get. Looks like once again I was the idiot because I DID fall in love with Cody, very hard, more so each day over the 2 years we spent together. On his side, each day of those 2 years was a win for him because he got more and more of my guard down.
“You’re only good for dick and dope Bryan! That’s all you’re good for because no one can stand you!”
Cody Lyons, 2022-2024